If you find it difficult to say no, then you are not alone. For some reason the word no became a dirty word to say. Parents try their hardest not to say it to their little children. They explain themselves away to their toddlers who don’t even understand.
If someone asks you to chip in for a gift or help out, you want to say yes. You may feel honored to be asked to volunteer at school or church, so you want to say yes. It feels good to be included and you are inclined to say yes.
But when you continue to say yes to countless demands…Could you just do me this one little favor? Could you pick something up at the store? Could you help out with this party?… the stress quickly builds, often to a boiling point.
Lighten Your Load and Just Say NO
Lighten your load by changing your gut reaction to these demands and just say no.
Others might think you are being selfish. They are used to your unbridled support and won’t like the fact that you are beginning to put yourself first. Are you being selfish? I don’t think so.
Saying no simply means that you now realize what your priorities are.
When you say yes to everything and try to meet the demands of others, you find that you have over-committed your time.
You end up with little time for yourself. You end up stressed and it can take a toll on your health. It is the build up of little things that cause the most stress rather than big life events.Saying NO frees up your time so you can focus more on the things that are important in your life. Click To Tweet
Saying no frees up your time so that you can focus more on the things that are important in your life. (It’s one of the best ways to deal with stress.) You can choose to get involved in things that interest you. You might want to try something new.
By valuing your time, you end up with more control over your life. Others will see how much you value your time and will be less likely to try to get you involved in their own projects. This is a big stress reducer.
It feels good to be asked to try something new. Say no to the opportunities that are not in line with what you value so that you have room for those things that excite you.
The more you say no, the easier it becomes. Don’t let anyone try to make you feel guilty for saying no. Those are the people who are being selfish…not you.
How Do You Know What To Say NO To?
Know what you want to say YES to and say no to everything else. When you know what your goals, dreams and values are, you can say no to anything that doesn’t fit.
- Goals: Write down specific and clear goals are you trying to reach along with a plan to achieve them.
- Dreams: Create a dream board for those things that may seem a bit out of reach at the moment.
- Values: Write down ten important beliefs or values that are most important to you in living your life.
When you know your goals, dreams and values you will have tremendous clarity and focus. You will know without a doubt what to say yes to and what to say no to.
It’s like lifting a heavy weight of stress from your shoulders.
Here’s How To Say NO:
- Give it some thought: When someone asks you to do something, pause and give the idea some thought. Depending on what it is, you might want to take a few days to think it over. The other person will feel as though you have given them respect.
- Give a reason: It doesn’t have to be a good reason. In fact, the other person might think it is a terrible reason but it is your reason. Did your mother every say to you “because I said so, that’s why”? It was a reason and it stood. You can simply say, that you don’t have time or you are not interested.
- Don’t let them argue with you: You have made your decision and given them an answer. They may not like it but that is your decision. Stick to it.
- Don’t beat around the bush: When you make the decision to say no, say it. Don’t put them off until later. Saying things like “Maybe” or “I don’t know” leaves the door open for a guilt trip.
That’s how to reduce stress and free up your time so you can do the things you want to do.
Big humdinger hugs,
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